“It’s never too late” Quite a cool phrase, right? I came upon it as I was thinking about the web content I would put up for this next week. And it got me thinking about the things that at some point in my life reached the category of “too late to do”, it turns out I had a lot more than I thought.
Amongst the most common ones are things that I could have said and done to save past relationships, my marriage included, some hobbies that I would have loved to have taken up, several jobs that I would have loved to do but now because of age I can no longer apply to, and the list goes on and on.
“It’s never too late”. It sounds good, really good. I understand why we use. It gives hope, it gives us the chance to believe there will be enough time to do everything we want in an undefined future. It allows us to remove the sense of urgency that makes regular people accomplish great things, and based on that it is my belief that the phrase “It’s never too late” has the potential to make us weak.
At this point you might be jumping into saying that on the news there was this one person who accomplished something amazing at 95, and you’d be right, I have seen those cases too, maybe the reason they are so popular is because they are so few and scarce, which would make them more the exception than the rule. Rule, which I reckon goes more on the lines of: If you do not act soon on your abilities, interests and motivations, it might get too late/ hard to do it later on in life.
What have you personally postponed under the umbrella of “I’ll do it later”? Or under the hope that the times would be better? “It’s never too late” apparently grants us the permission to wait for the right time to start something because the present time never seems to be good enough.
So I have decided to make a change in the phrase since I could no longer use it at face value. I now see it as “it’s never sometimes too late”
I believe it gives me back the power to take action; it helped me reconnect with that lost sense of urgency in several areas of my life. It made me look at my ambitions through the scope of time running out and having to make the best out of it. It put me back on the track of ideas to move forward faster than before. Knowing that it can get too late to achieve the life I want to live reenergized me, gave my actions meaning.
If there are any aspects of your life that you would prefer didn’t reach the category of “too late to do”, try this:
- Become aware
Make a list of the things that are now too late for you to do or hugely impractical/ unproductive taking into account your present reality and responsibilities. Hopefully things that you said you have always wanted before. This will help you know that passing time without action comes at a cost.
- Aspire again
Make a list of all the things that you say you want to do and not let fall into the “too late to do” bucket. Do not judge them, just make your list.
- Reality check
Filter the activities on the list on the accounts of your present life. How much time do you have to spare? Do you have the resources? What would be hard enough to keep me interested but not so hard that I would quit? Which would disconnect me from my usual routine but not so much I could neglect my responsibilities? Add any more questions that would keep you feet on the ground and your head up. In the end of this exercise you will have one good activity that you can do and want to do. YEAH!
Start with what you have, where you are. Add this new activity to your calendar and just allow yourself to do it. Avoid trying to have a “perfect” start or tons of time to do it. All you need to do is go from not-doing-it into Doing-it, even if it means only doing it for 10 minutes, 10 minutes is better than cero minutes.